How to elegantly receive feedback

How to elegantly receive feedback

Are you interested to know how others see your work? Do something as to make it easier for them to communicate this thing. And if they think that you will appreciate their answer, you will receive more than that. And that’s a good thing.

Here’s how you can do it:

– Control you defensive attitude. The fear of hurting or having to deal with a defensive or justificatory behavior makes people hesitate in giving feedback.

– Listen so you can understand. Try to put into practice all the abilities of a good listener, including body language and face expressions to encourage others to talk.

– Do not judge your talking partner. In the end, when you find out other’s point of view, you learn things about you and the way your actions and your words are interpreted.

– Thing about what you’ve heard. Your interlocutor will appreciate the fact that you truly listen what he has to say.

– Ask questions if you want to be clear about something. Focus on the questions, so you can assure that you understand what the other person is communicating.

– Ask for examples that can illustrate the received answers, just because a person is giving feedback, doesn’t mean it’s the correct one. She/he sees your actions be interprets them throughout own experience and perception.

– Be accessible. Your opening to feedback is obvious through body language, face expressions and the way you meet a person.

– Also discuss with other people to determine if the received feedback is the correct one. If only one person thing something about you, most probably you do not have that problem.

– Try to show that you appreciate the person that is giving feedback. She/he will feel encouraged and will transmit this to others.

Even the manager or the direct boss finds difficult sharing this feedback. You can never know how a person would react. If you are defensive or hostile, try to focus on the questions and answers that you receive – most of the times, this thing will make you forget the fury and hostility. If you totally disapprove what you hear, and you want to convince the interlocutor that he’s not right, wait until you can control your emotions and then reopen the discussion.